tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post3929957011934906546..comments2024-02-24T04:11:11.521-06:00Comments on Introverted Wife: Out with the bathwaterEllen Minthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03208244458086146065noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post-71338656502357665052009-01-05T07:53:00.000-06:002009-01-05T07:53:00.000-06:00Isn't your wedding day uniquely yours? so why shou...Isn't your wedding day uniquely yours? so why should they shun you for having a day that was celebrated for your love and reflected the two of you?<BR/><BR/>To each their own, I say... but i think your wedding was awesome and the pictures you showed, made it look like a TON of fun! Isn't that what counts at the end of the day - celebrating love... in CELEBRATION?!?!<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://imaynotbefamous.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">RelentlessBride</A>AmyJean {Relentless Bride®}https://www.blogger.com/profile/10648725099262152263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post-52845165704833638782009-01-05T04:38:00.000-06:002009-01-05T04:38:00.000-06:00Sorry to hear you've been having a hard time with ...Sorry to hear you've been having a hard time with the in-laws.<BR/><BR/>I don't know whether it was because of the way we did things or what, but Nate's family expressed close to zero interest in our wedding the whole way through the planning. (I am suspicious it was because of the way we did it, namely that they thought they should have been bridesmaids, but guess we might never know.)<BR/><BR/>You should go to the wedding, though. Take the higher ground and show as much respect for her cookie cutter wedding as they should have shown for your alternative one. Set an example and show that it's the bride and groom's taste that counts, and whether you would do things differently or not, you're going to support them.Cate Subrosahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11371172824707301749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post-71118282945836853002009-01-05T01:09:00.000-06:002009-01-05T01:09:00.000-06:00my family freaked out DURING the planning process ...my family freaked out DURING the planning process when they started to see that I was throwing out most of the traditional b.s. But after having such fun at a non-traditional wedding it's all my family can talk about STILL. And I'm loving it. But I'm sorry that you're experiencing the opposite. eh, fuck 'em. There's people that "get it" and people that don't. They just don't.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07814246132595575567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post-48893327261155420862009-01-04T10:34:00.000-06:002009-01-04T10:34:00.000-06:00Oh boo that's just no fun! You had the great weddi...Oh boo that's just no fun! You had the great wedding YOU wanted. It didn't have to be traditional - and you're the only person that had to love it.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906317746298979128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post-18605985453253176292009-01-04T01:50:00.000-06:002009-01-04T01:50:00.000-06:00I'm sorry to hear about your situation. If it make...I'm sorry to hear about your situation. If it makes you feel any better, I'm still planning my wedding and most of the family doesn't really give a shit. Yes, the obligatory questions are asked, "How's wedding planning?!" and "Do you have your dress yet?!" But other than that, no one cares. My FI and I just had a huge fight with his parents on new year's day. I recounted some of the ugly tale on my blog. The bottom line is - you are fabulous...and in-laws often suck. Wish it weren't the case.The Less Than Domestic Goddesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08060606277113247652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post-4560392812224849092009-01-03T22:22:00.000-06:002009-01-03T22:22:00.000-06:00I'm not sure if this is comforting, or just sad, b...I'm not sure if this is comforting, or just sad, but that shower I wnet to today...the bride STOLE all our vendors, ideas, tricks and suprises. Like our hot dog cart, photographer, florist, mariachi band, dj AND caterer. She didn't even give me credit...jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11428554394228794484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post-45833845731528294672009-01-03T20:03:00.000-06:002009-01-03T20:03:00.000-06:00Oh, I'm sorry. It sucks that they can't see that y...Oh, I'm sorry. It sucks that they can't see that you and your husband expressed yourselves at the wedding. It was totally your wedding done as you wanted it. Even if it wasn't their style they shouldn't make you feel bad about it. Sorry that they made you feel bad.<BR/>All that being said you should feel bad for them. They don't have any creativity and they follow the crowd either cause they are scared or unable to figure things out for themselves. Be glad you'll never be them. Save your breath for people who want to hear about you-like us!<BR/>Your husband choose you and choose to be where you are. You didn't make him do anything, so get that out of your mind.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14004178422343485278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post-37639903631607283972009-01-03T18:49:00.000-06:002009-01-03T18:49:00.000-06:00I'm sorry your husband's family isn't more open to...I'm sorry your husband's family isn't more open to the new and the different. I feel that way often with my dad's family. I've always been the nerdy one on that side of the family (which they consider profoundly undesirable in someone with a XX chromosome) and if I turn down the Jell-o and coleslaw casserole or read a book instead of watching "According to Jim" I'm a "snob."<BR/>My coping strategy is to bring lots of books and try my hardest to be cheerful and interested in what they do, so I know that at least I did my best and if they think I'm a weirdo, well, that's that.<BR/><BR/>You know what they say: you can pick your nose but you can't pick your family.Bride in Exilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08842191847941847564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3110730744329616042.post-28190139287478296602009-01-03T15:16:00.000-06:002009-01-03T15:16:00.000-06:00I'm so sorry that this is the case for you. I LOV...I'm so sorry that this is the case for you. I LOVED how your wedding was so full of yours and your husband's personalities.<BR/><BR/>My mother is the same as his parents...if it "hasn't been done before" (AKA SHE hasn't seen it), it's wrong. Good Lord I had to argue for three hours about the mismatched bridesmaids dresses, and she's not contributing a DIME to our wedding! She can't even remember what day our wedding is taking place.<BR/><BR/>But whatever...his parents/family can get over it. They obviously can't see what a wonderful girl you are, and they need to get over themselves and shut up. Let their daughter have a "perfect" cookie cutter wedding. She'll just be another one of billions and you'll be the one that offers inspiration to other soon-to-be-brides who want to be different.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01071889242097993916noreply@blogger.com