I have the wonderful option of having my good college friend --and flower girl (whole nother story)-- being very good at doing fancy hair stuff and willing to attack mine (possibly with a chainsaw). She actually did the hair for my MOH's wedding after a slight emergency as well as doing mine and my guys for a dance we all went to.
It was fun as she had free range and we both got blue gel in our hair and he got blue spikes. I'd share a picture but sadly the only one taken is in B&W. But I wouldn't want anyone else doing my hair if only because I know we can get together and come up with something classic but fun.
Trying to come up with a base hairstyle though is about near impossible. We've been looking for something half up, half down, and half & half. It seems like most bridal sites will either have a total updo or all hair down (or be like TheKnot and be about impossible to search unless you have a lot of time on your hands).
One that I have found at Brides.com has a wonderful listing where you can search for pictures based upon the type you want (half up), what your hair is (wavy), and length of hair (medium). There's also some stuff about style but I don't know if they have an option for "Don't look at me, look at everyone else."
If you want something a bit more interactive there are sites that have options for you to create a model or upload a picture of yourself and you can try on different hairstyles. Here's one from hairstyles.com (though it's just a demo option you might still find some good styles). After playing with it I think I should go for more of a mohawk look actually.
I wish some wedding website/magazine would decide to make an article about how best to pick hair styles for your veil/hair pins/flower and then how to insert said adornment. But sadly til then we'll just have to make due with a lot of bobby pins and some extra gorilla glue.