Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Misogyny isn't just some fairy tale

A man went into a gym in Pittsburgh and killed three women, injured 10 others and then killed himself.

And why did he do it?

Because he hadn't gotten laid.

He had an entire website devoted to how all women were whores who wouldn't put out with him even though he was "not weird." He talked about how unfair it is that 16 year olds get to have sex but he doesn't, and that makes them bitches and hoes.

The scariest thing, this is not the first time I've seen these horrific ramblings. I have read that same trope over and over again on message boards. Guys who haven't gotten a date in a long time bemoan how all women are whores who hate men and just deserve what's coming to them (and 9 times out of 10 it's shrugged off as either a joke or "boys will be boys").

Being a nerd I used to frequent some of the larger nerdy/geeky forums that were like honey to this breed of horrifying man-babies. It is mind bogging to see someone truly believe that he deserves a woman to service his every needs not because he has anything to offer her in return but just because he was born.

Our culture just screams to men that they deserve it all, and they don't have to do a damn thing to get it. Male enrollment at college is way down, I can count on one hand the number of male grad students I've known. Yet men still expect everything handed to them on a silver platter including the high paying job, huge house and hot girlfriend/wife.

When they don't get it, they need a scapegoat. Because of course they were born with a penis so they can't be at fault for anything.

And then you have a man pick up a gun and kill innocent women all because he deserves everything he wants due to that Y chromosome.

I am sick and tired of having to stroke their damn ego's. Telling the perpetual couch potato that it's okay to spend all your money on beer, barely shower, not hold a job and devote all waking hours to video games. You still deserve a girl friend and to get laid because, well, men get whatever they want.

Fuck You! Women are not a right. Sex is not a right. No where is it written in the constitution that everyone can pursue life, liberty, and as many women to fuck as he wants.

You want a girlfriend? Get off your ass and actually work for it. No more of this passive aggressive women only like jerks nice guy shit. If every time you tried to get a date and failed news flash the problem isn't with 50% of the population it's with your selfish little ass.

And this is why I am eternally grateful that I got myself a well adjusted nerd and never have to talk to those scum dwelling "nice guys" ever again. Only we're never really safe are we? Because who knows when one of them may decide that he deserves to rape, abuse or even shoot you just because you dare to be female in his perfect male presence.


Bride in Exile said...

You are frighteningly, terrifyingly, absolutely right. A lot of young men -- not all, but more than there should be -- see getting laid or having a girlfriend as a right of being male, and believe that their interest in a particular woman should be enough reason for her to return the interest. If she doesn't, she's a stuck-up bitch, a twit who only dates jerks, or a "tease." God forbid that she might just not find you attractive. That's not allowed. If you're male, that means you deserve to be loved and worshiped by the woman of your choice. Meanwhile, she is only deserving of love if she "keeps her figure."

It never ceases to amaze me how men who clearly hate women can be so puzzled when no women want to spend time around them.

Krista said...

There must be some mental illness. It's just not possible someone without depression or psychosis or something can do this. It must be more than societal expectations.

I have to believe that. I have to believe that misogyny isn't bred into so many men that these shootings can be allowed to continue. That they happen without mental illness or psychosis.

I remember observing the "Polytechnique" murders every year in high school and university. Most schools seem to continue to observe it every year. I remember many of their names: Anne Marie, Genevieve, Helen. In case you don't know, you can learn more here: or here:

This happened in 1989.

I also remember Columbine. I was in grade 12. There were "after shocks" around the world, other smaller shootings, threats, paranoia. In my school, we had the start of "emergency" (lock-down) drills in my school. It was quite scary to do lock down drills, where all doors locked and we had to hide away from windows / doors.

May we have the mental health services to prevent this from happening again.

May we have the support to care for the survivors of this incident.

And may we have the strength to call out sexism (and all the other bad -isms) when we see/hear it. Even if it's not laughing at a sexist joke, it's important to take your stand.

Anonymous said...

Agreed, unfortunately. This makes me really angry. It's like how in wars the victor thinks it is okay to rape all the women as they feel like it is their right to do so. (

The sad thing is that no self respecting woman would date someone like that because of their hate of women. If you go to a place and behave like everyone hates you and that you're so amazing, chances are people aren't going to like you.

What happened to meeting women through common interests and activities, friends, etc, treating them well to woo them?

Chesney said...

A standing ovation....